“You still don’t have a boyfriend?!”
Ladies, I know we have friends and even relatives who are pressuring us to be in a relationship. However, please do not let the pressure pushed you to settle for someone you deserve less. I believe that to be in a relationship is a preparation for both of you to a path leading to marriage. Yes, you should settle for a man you want to be your husband. Not only the man you want but the man you have prayed for.
Being in a relationship is not just about having a boyfriend/girlfriend. It’s not something we enter just because our other friends already have, nor the pressure by our relatives. We are all encouraged to patiently wait for love until we are in the right period of our faith. Love will show up anytime, but we have to be ready before saying Yes to it.
I know, waiting for love is never easy. There may be times that God allows the frailty of human love, and this is because we have longings in our hearts that only the maker of love can fulfill. Let Him fulfill your love tank first so that you won’t seek the human love in wrong places. Because truth is, He will give him someday. He will send him to you when you are all set for it.
Guard your heart, sweetheart.
Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life (Proverbs 4:23).
Guard you heart for it influences the every aspect of your life. It’s not the only seat of emotions, but it is the core of who you are. Guard your heart because you are on a battlefield. You are in a constant war with all the temptations of this Earth, and your heart is one of the most valuable treasury you have to protect.
Love is not perfect, it is flawed, and have some curvy edges, but it has been perfectly crafted for you. Don’t settle for someone when you know deep in your heart, that love is so much more.
If you have fallen in love and got hurt, that’s okay, darling. Let the Creator of love heal your heartbreak. I know, sometimes love is hard. You get hurt, mad, and broken, but the thing about it is that love always stays. It never leaves. It radiates from one person to another. It lets you grow and evolve into the best version of yourself. It gives you a purpose. It rejects all your worries and what ifs. It teaches you to trust a promise and to be brave in being honest. It has its power to change you over and over. Whether you are at your best or your worst, it stays because love envelopes all of what you are. And when love seems out of reach, fate and heavens will always make a way for you to believe in it again.
Be like Ruth.
Your first relationship may not have last, but God has greater plans for you. When Mahlon died, Ruth did not give up on love, nor became bitter. She obediently followed Christ, and her loyalty to her mother-in-law was strong. When Naomi (Ruth’s mother-in-law) thought that Ruth will no longer find a husband, there was Boaz, a man of character and kindness. God presented Boaz in the story for a reason. Ruth’s love story may not be the typical romance we see on big screens, but it reminds us that God has prepared someone who He knows is the best for us.
Be like Ruth, darling. Do not be in a hurry. Do not be bitter.
He is preparing Him for you.
Like how St. Paul defines love,
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hope, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.” Corinthians 13:4-8
Before anything else, he defines first love is patient. We are encouraged by God to patiently wait for him. And as we wait for him, let us use this time being to also be better for him. Because when the time is right, the right one will pursue you with real and pure intentions.
God will reveal him at the right moment of your life. Wait for love.
He’s on his way to you.